Well, this has been a week of ups and downs. In all honesty, probably a week of more downs than ups and this afternoon (Friday) it seems I have just missed out on two pieces of work, one of which would have been the biggest since I left the corporate world and went out on my own.
So, how am I feeling? It’s Friday afternoon, it’s freezing and things are not going the way I want them to. I have just heaved a huge sigh and contemplated a cup of tea. I’ve also contemplated an extra jumper and, quite possibly, a pair of fingerless gloves!
Then I started thinking about resilience and just how we can ride life’s rollercoaster with as much style when we’re on the downs as when we are on the ups.
Now some people would say that, as a coach and trainer, I shouldn’t be writing about a lack of success. However, I think this issue of resilience is a really important one…life doesn’t always work out the way we wanted it to. Recognising that life, like rollercoasters, can sometimes have really big drops is a fundamental step towards riding it with style.
So, here are some tips I use for dealing with days like today…
Accept the reality of the situation. if things are going badly, pretending they are perfect will not help; if you don’t accept the reality you can’t do anything about it. Acceptance lets you acknowledge that you want things to be different. From that point you can start to look for ways to make a change. For example, if you are overweight and unhappy about it, pretending that you are happy with the way you are does nothing to help you make a change. You are lieing to yourself and others. Until you accept that you are not happy with your weight you can’t decide to do something about it.
2 FOCUS ON THE RESULT YOU WANT
You’ve accepted the reality of your situation. Now it’s time to be clear about what you want instead. You may already have a very clear goal and picture of that. If so, now is a great time to look at it. If you don’t have a clear goal now is the time to work on it. What are you working for? What would a great day look like in 5 years’ time? Do you know? Write it down. Be specific, and include how you want to FEEL. The “juicier” you can make this goal, the more real it feels and the more compelling it will be. As Henry Ford said, “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal”, so make your goal eyewateringly attractive. It will help you stay focussed during the times when things aren’t going quite how you want them to.
3 BELIEVE THAT AS ONE DOOR CLOSES ANOTHER ONE OPENS
So, you didn’t get what you wanted. Does that raise another opportunity?